Who is this guy?
I’m other-side-of-the-planet out of the loop, so may possibly be forgiven for never, until today, having heard of Steve Santagati, but I’ve just come across a blog post by him on the Huff Post.
He was apparently on a CNN program I’ve also never heard of, Showbiz Tonight, talking about a magazine I’ve never heard of, Maxim, and voicing opinions I have most certainly heard, but not for a while.
Divvying up what does or does not make the opposite sex desirable isn’t a conversation I’ve come across lately, so I was interested to learn what the buzz is in the real world late 2007.
Being some sort of expert on what makes women sexy in the eyes of men, he posts a Top Ten that addresses wardrobe (classy, but provocative), grooming (perfume should be present but not over-powering and it’s best if her hair is clean and of feminine length), temperament (can’t have a “sour puss” or get up on a soapbox and complain all the time), and humor (should be able to take a joke…even if it’s dirty), amongst other things.
Insisting that woman want “brutal honesty”, and admitting that 95% of us can “take it on”, he’s right tiffed by those who can’t … or possibly choose not to?
Because it’s his blog inspiring mine today, I’ll give him his Top Ten and a nod to the postulation that men find ‘sexy’ the quality most attractive, and since he’s never heard of me I’ll assume we’re square and turnabout being fair play I can join the game.
Not being a man, I would never assume to speak for my gender on anything, so my thoughts on what is hot on a man would be my own. Looks are part of the initial draw, but far too subjective, and a small part of the picture.
So, my Top Ten of what makes a man attractive looks like this:
1. He should look like he could care less about what he wears and not spend more than 30 seconds on his hair.
2. In reasonable physical shape, showing evidence of enjoying a good meal and the occasional ale is required.
3. He can be clumsy and goofy as long as he has a good laugh.
4. He must be good at listening AND hearing. (Eye contact is important, too.)
5. He shouldn’t smell like anything that can be purchased through Duty Free other than a good Single Malt.
6. He must be passionate about something.
7. He should not be whiny, ever have his mother do his ironing or freak out at the sight of bugs or snakes.
8. Loving kids and animals and being gentle goes a long way to making up for lost hair or other mere physical attributes that may be less than perfect.
9. An addiction to the written word is vital.
10. He must have honor, never lie, and be ready to protect those he cares for with his life.
Is this too much to ask? Not for me. And, by the way, this is not just the Top Ten for “What I looked for in a life partner.” This would also be the checklist for anyone looking to get laid.
Feel free to add your own thoughts …
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You just described my husband. That’s why I married him 🙂
Sandra…even though you aren’t presuming to speak for all women, I think you probably have. I love your list.
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Good list!!
Oh, to live in a place where I had never heard of “Maxim”. . . LOL!! That’s the magazine that generates controversy every few months when young actresses pose for the cover.
– Faith
You have just discribed your husband and mine. And in my husband’s defense, I must say that his top 10 list would fit closer to yours than to Steve Santagati’s!
I 100% agree with your list, Sandra!!! And, to include myself in the list of those lucky enought to have a man that meets the afore-metioned list of yours, my husband definitely rates on all of those areas 🙂 Thanks for bringing my mind back to all those very important reasons I married my Mr. Right. 🙂
This list matches the perfect American redneck. This is for American women that enjoy rednecks and losers. This list will never make in Europe or Latin Amarica. This is why these guys go crazy in Europe and Latin America looking for the real women who appreciate class and real men, not the ones that endorsed this low class list. This is good for stinky and redneck American men.
evcj,
Spoken like a man who still has mommy doing his ironing …
Yep.
I guess I am out of the picture also.
Too european. Six foot, champion rower. Own my own company and am a multimillionaire. Dark hair, dark eyes. Love wearing Drakkar noir (look for it in Bloomingdales or Saks). Have dual Phds in finance and history from the London School of Economics and the College de Sorbonne. Speak several languages, and am a Christian who believes in old fashion monogamy. I am also good looking and have all my hair, dont wear glasses and have no serious health problems. I guess from your list I fail in the key areas. No wonder I am single, but not bored. What should I change to be the perfect male. Obviously I must get fat, lose my millions and pat pets. You never know I must give it a try. I forgot I also look after my mother, so I must be a mummy’s boy.
Regards
Platon, dear …
Since I’ve not had an American man in many years, the “too European” thing is not valid, although too arrogant certainly would be. And missing #4 on the list completely does put you at a disadvantage.
I’m sure you’re a lovely man, and as impressed with yourself as you seem to be, you’ll make some girl … also easily impressed … a happy bunny, for a while.
Personally, I would think someone with TWO … count them, TWO … PhDs would have more grasp of punctuation. But that’s just me.
Typically female to point my lax punctuation.
I did not get my degrees based on my punctuation (some of my lecturers were even more sinful in this regard). Though I take your point. Just for the record, and for your edification – English is not my first language nor my second. Though I admit I lack practice (been a while) and you may be right, maybe I will find the right bunny you never never know and just maybe she may last the distance (only God Knows). In regards to being impressed with myself, the faux pas is on your side. Stating a fact is not a mark of arrogance but of confidence (hence why women invariably misunderstand men).Betwixt the two there is a world of pain. I like challenges (so do most men shhhh), and I usually win (that must suck!). Maybe I will die single. But I have to say I had a reasonable ride – trust me I have traveled the world – third world, first world and in between, been to war zones, seen famine, seen wealth unimaginable, seen the worse and the best of men. On that note Mugabe is a very bad man, seen the damage he has done with my own eyes, neither the west nor the east will be able to fix humpy this time, not allowed in – I digress happens when I am thinking. Maybe that is why I am writing to some stranger in a blog, how do you explain the impossible. But I will stop it’s all academic. It would be lost in translation and Sure, I may be an obnoxious dilettante, even up myself, but in the final analysis, how would you know. What if I were not? n’est-ce pas? Como lo sabrias? What if, God forbid, some people may be complex even very complex. It was fun heureux de faire votre connaissance. I just thought it would be fun to fight on behalf of over talented alpha males out there, lonely souls surrounded by exquisite furniture in their little palaces, surveying the world. Wondering why they can’t find the perfect femme fatale. I would return to this site but the challenge is to have the last word (a typical female trait). Literally.. there. John 3:16 is true but you already knew that… you could tell from my spelling.
oh sandra i have just started reading your blogs and found this one lovely
in part i guess because you leave me hope that there are women out there who value those things in a man …
i love in hope that i will meet such women
you have a wicked sense of humour and that integrated with other aspects of sexiness is for me an essential element in a woman’s attractiveness ..lovely
Yeah, our Sandra is dead sexy!