For parents of Cambodian-born kids, or anyone interested in what’s up in Cam, this week’s wrap of the news from Cambodia has been posted on the International Adoption Blog.
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Posted in Adoption, Cambodia, International Adoption on July 13, 2007| Leave a Comment »
Granny marries youngster … but is that the story?
Posted in Adoption, Older women, On getting older, Writing for a living, WTF?, Younger men on July 11, 2007| 5 Comments »
If you don’t already know this, I’ll share that one of the pro blogs I write is on the topic of adopting as an older parent.
Since I’m about to turn fifty-six and have a 4.75-year-old and a 2-year-old, I’m qualified to write about being a geezer mom. I try very hard not to make that blog all about ‘Oy, my achin’ this and that‘ to keep an encouraging tone for others considering heading their walkers down that path (That’s a “Zimmer frame” to British readers … which I apparently have now.), and in hopes of giving my kids something to look back on and be fooled into thinking I was hip and groovy well into my dotage.
In my daily perusal of newsal … trawling for blog fodder … I found a story that grabbed my attention, then held it long enough for me to spend some time wondering about someone else’s life and choices.
You see, I’m not just an older mom, I’m an older woman with a younger husband … not exactly a cradle robber, since Mark was 26 when we met at my 42nd birthday party — more like a bike thief in a ‘You-can-forget-about-ever-buying-a-motorcycle-now-Mister’ sort of way.
But back to the morning’s news …
Bopping around my usual haunts, I found this story coming out of the UK about a 51-year-old grandmother and her new husband, a mere slip of a lad of 27.
Ack! You might say. That certainly does warrant a news headline or two. After all, there’s almost a quarter of a century of long, hard years between that woman and her Toy Boy. Aside from the sex, what could they possibly have in common?
And well you might ask. Since her husband isn’t allowed into Britain, sex isn’t much of an issue, and they most certainly come from different backgrounds.
She’s a five-times married granny and respected parish councillor who lives in the village of Moulton in Oxfordshire.
He? Well, he was raised in Afghanistan and now runs a scrap metal business in the Saudi city of Jedda.
Although they are legally married after the blossoming of the holiday romance in Egypt, she continues to go by her previous married name Mrs. Jane Felix-Brown. Perhaps some day she’ll change it to match her husband’s, and officially become Mrs. Omar bin Laden.
Osama’s her father-in-law.
And to think some people are all het up about the age difference!
Cam news update: All sorts of snakes
Posted in Adoption, Cambodia on July 6, 2007| Leave a Comment »
The weekly update of news from Cambodia is posted here.
Just Ducky
Posted in Adoption, Fun on July 1, 2007| Leave a Comment »
I’ve just written a three-part rant over on the International Adoption Blog and need to download a bit of tension before I get down to the serious business of a Sunday … that would be napping, then off to the beach for a while with Mark and the kids … so thought I’d take the opportunity to write about rubber duckies.
Yeah … why not?
If you’ve not seen this story may I suggest a click? The whole thing is a hoot, but I’ll give the short version here for anyone thinking my take might have merit.
It’s the tale of one Curtis Ebbesmeyer, a Seattle-based … what? … really bored guy would fit, I suppose … oh, and oceanographer, if that’s not a redundancy … who for the last 15 years has been tracking somewhere around 30,000 plastic duck bath toys.
The ducks began life in a Chinese factory and were being shipped to the US from Hong Kong when three 40ft containers fell into the Pacific during a storm on January 29, 1992. Two thirds of them floated south through the tropics, landing months later on the shores of Indonesia, Australia and South America. But 10,000 headed north and by the end of the year were off Alaska and heading back westwards. It took three years for the ducks to circle east to Japan, past the original drop site and then back to Alaska on a current known as the North Pacific Gyre before continuing north towards the Arctic.
At the moment, they’re heading for England, Ireland and Scotland, and finding one can net you a cool $100, as they’ll be considered a scientific discovery. (Imagine Ernie as Jacques Cousteau. Er ees my asseestant, Bert … I mean Falco …)
The Yellow Duckies are no longer yellow, as the sun and sea have bleached them white, but they are still afloat, and perhaps still grinning … which says a lot about sun and sea and plastic.
I have a wonderful mental image of this flotilla — hundreds abreast, a slowly bobbing forward press of now-silent squeaky toys advancing toward land after years of adventures on the open sea, bills held high … and so on.
Ah … I feel so much better now. A little story of the sea, even one this silly … or maybe especially one this silly … has completely washed the taste of anti-adoption bile from my mouth and left me with a hankering to do some bobbin’ about myself.
Off to the beach now …
Thanks, Ducks.
Her own worst enemy … and that’s saying something
Posted in Adoption, Adoption Advocacy, International Adoption on June 21, 2007| 7 Comments »
Amazing as it may seem, Mirah Riben … rabid anti-adoption nut and casual acquaintance of the written word … continues to shoot herself in the foot in forums as public as she can manage to corner for flaunting her ignorance and narrow agenda that consists of sour grapes and disregard for the fate of children in the world.
Why? You might well ask, but heck if I can figure it out, although I do speculate a bit on that in an article on BNN and in a comment here on Adoption.com.
I’m guessing the heavy investment in misery I mention in the comment to Lisa’s post linked above … specific instructions, you see, in case any of the oh-so-easily-confused cohorts of The Riben happen to drop by and again can’t figure out the whole click-to-link thing … has a lot to do with it. There would appear to be no little support, and in fact a great deal of it, for assuming a victim posture and sticking with it no matter how silly it looks.
I have a mental image of the meetings these folks must participate in … huge wallows, complete with enthusiastic bouts of flagellation meant to bring out impressive welts easily and eagerly shown off and compared, possible even with “my pain is bigger than your pain” contests taking up a portion of the schedule. Any healing would have to be frowned upon as a negation, and claims of adjustment to circumstances a repudiation, a denial.
The Riben’s writings might be garnering her pain points in whatever game she plays, and we do know she’s flogging a book or two … which I’m hoping she sends for review, as I’d be happy to do that, but do doubt she’d want a real critique of her ‘work’ from someone not married to her agenda … and it appears she may be trying to start a movement.
Her latest spewage calls for a boycott of Adoption.com, and though it looks like she finally found someone to proof her since some punctuation is appropriately used … thank goodness, as her writing is usually so poor that a headache is the only result of a reading — attempted reading, I should say … the information continues to be consistently, and most likely intentionally, incorrect and the references continue to lead back only to her own words on her own web sites.
Parents and Professionals for Family Preservation and Protection is opposed to the purpose of this site, its advertisers, and its practices and urges all who are truly interested in preserving families to boycott Adoption.com and its affiliates.
Sound impressive? Not really, and even less so when you know that “Parents and Professionals for Family Preservation and Protection” is Mirah Riben … probably on her lonesome, too. (Family Preservation is code for abolish adoption. Pretty tricky in a sad, pathetic sort of way, heh?)
People are asking why I continue to provide links to her, but how could I not? If I summarized, you’d think I was making her up. She’s her own worst enemy, poor thing, in all her embarrassing, convoluted and desperate glory, and far be it from me to deny anyone the experience of the full Mirah.
I’d link to her blog where she accuses me of being just like Paris Hilton, but I don’t want to divert attention from serious issues with comedy relief. Email me if you’d like the link, though — the whole post is hilarious.
Good for a laugh as she is, however, a pattern of tedium is forming. No matter how monotonous, she does keep drawing hits to my sites, though, so there’s milage in the sad old girl yet.
Politics near and far
Posted in Adoption, Seychelles, The USA from the outside in on June 20, 2007| Leave a Comment »
A victim of my own success, I’ve now got the new blog gig over on the pro blog site I work for, Adoption.com, and am a bit busier than I like to be.
Don’t get me wrong; I like the work and enjoy having such a huge platform from which I can point out the idiocy of idiots and add up the moron quotient in spewed drivel. It does this old heart good to know that I’m doing my bit toward keeping the world somewhat livable … or at least managing to cause some irritating rashes to break out on those who attempt the opposite. It’s not a pleasant thing to pull off scabs and get pus oozing, but that’s often what it takes to eradicate dangerous rot.
But the point of this post has bifurcated prematurely; it’s politics I set out to write about today.
Monday was National Day here in Seychelles, a big deal of an event that marks not much of anything but is celebrated with hoopla nonetheless. It’s one of three public holidays in June and falls between Liberation Day … the day of the coups d’etat that toppled the government of the first president … and Independence Day.
The President’s National Day speech is always eagerly anticipated, as it often gives clues to what’s ahead for the Seychellois. This year we learned there are changes in the wind for tourist-related business, which sounds good, and if they figure out how to get the site right, you can read the whole thing in English here in the Seychelles Nation newspaper. (Don’t count on it, though.)
My editor on the Adoption News blog wants me to gather info on presidential candidates in the US race for 2008 … an assignment that has me realizing how far removed I am and how long I’ve been away from the States.
I mean, really! Who are these people?
Of course, I know about Hillary and Rudy, and Edwards, Biden and McCain have familiar faces even to me, but although I know him now Obama did seem to pop up like a genie from a lamp. And Kucinich? Brownback? Mitt Romney?
Have we ever had a candidate called Mitt before?
That reminds me of the repeated process of learning to live with a new name in the White House. Anyone remember how odd the combination of the words ‘President’ and ‘Clinton’ sounded before Bill moved in?
I clearly recall people saying that ‘Reagan’ could never seriously be attached to the title, and ‘Bush’ just sounding silly.
So a G.W. was no leap, as a Hillary wouldn’t be … we’re all accustomed to the rhythm and cadence of their last names tacked on to leader of the free world … but we’ll get used to making easy reference to whoever ends up in the job.
Well, there are a few names that should never be conjoined with the title … I’m thinking Limbaugh, Liddy and Hilton, off the top of my head.
Backfire can be a bitch
Posted in Adoption, Adoption Advocacy, International Adoption, Writing for a living on June 14, 2007| 26 Comments »
This blog might begin to show signs of neglect for a while, as I’ve just taken on a new pro blog at Adoption.com covering news from the adoption world.
This came about as a direct result of the slur campaign Mirah Riben and cohorts conducted in reaction to my post shredding a piece of trash she tried to pass off as ‘information’ that started out here, then was moved … by popular demand … to my International Adoption Blog.
By coordinating efforts within the ranks of the anti-adoption league, conducting a full-scale attack on my job and integrity and pulling out all the stops … including the one that would have masquerading as your own biggest fan seem like a really sleazy and desperate move, and understanding that such action is the very definition of ‘fraud’ … they managed to propel me ahead in my work and gain for me a level of respect it would have taken longer to reach without their help.
Finally seen as the scrapper I am, a new category of blog was created as a platform for not only the copious amounts of adoption-related news I glean daily as a matter of course, but also for my views and opinions.
Now, if they start paying me what I’m worth I’ll have found my dream job!
Harboring Resentments
Posted in Adoption Advocacy, Writing for a living on June 11, 2007| 1 Comment »
I’m thinking about words today, these flitting little finches of communication that roost wherever they can safely alight, hanging on for as much time as needed to accomplish a purpose, then scattering in the breeze only to re-form later in a different version of the flock.
Yes, in an effort to find an extra something gentle as a tonic against the bone-headed obstinacy of some humans, I’ve been contemplating the Madagascar Fodies as they gather in my coconut tree in high hopes that it’s approaching five o’clock … the magic time the feeder fills.
They carry on constant conversations in rapid-fire Fodish, arguing often over just whose turn it is to hog the little perch at the food dispenser, and there doesn’t seem to be a lot of listening going on.
Hmmmm. Strikingly familiar today, I must say.
Although it’s arrogant to assume that birds couldn’t have issues as grand as the ones humans burden themselves with, any other perspective would be anthropomorphic in the extreme. Very unscientific, that, and not supportive of today’s ramblings.
For now, I’ll accept that the little birds in the coconut tree are not holding grudges or harboring resentments that render other birds’ chirps inaudible and that every cheep and twitter is heard and taken at beak value.
Harboring resentments. There are a couple of words that go together like ‘soup and sandwich’, but give them an extra couple of taps of the space bar between and a whole realm of thoughts jump up and demand attention.
The verb, to harbor, meaning to shelter, to give refuge to, to protect and keep safe. Such a cozy word, so warm and snug.
Resentments, a noun meaning bitterness, antipathy, bile, hatred, anger. Nothing cozy here, just all hard edges and foul-tasting juices laced with the metallic tang of regret.
Why on earth would these two fine words, both excellent examples of clarity on their own, ever be put side-by-side, and often enough for the combo to go unchallenged in most conversations? And why would anyone seek the state they describe?
Harboring resentments … sheltering bitterness … giving refuge to bile … making a safe place for hatred.
Nietzsche comes to mind. From “Thus Spake Zarathustra” …
“And others are proud of their handful of justice and commit outrages against all things for its sake, till the world is drowned in their injustice. Oh, how ill the word virtue comes out of their mouths!
And when they say, “I am just,” it always sounds like “I am just – revenged.” With their virtue they want to scratch out the eyes of their enemies, and they exalt themselves only to humble others.”
My prescription for peace today: read Nietzche and watch birds.
I feel better already. Great, in fact.
Back to work …
Popular Demand
Posted in Adoption, Adoption Advocacy, Writing for a living on June 10, 2007| 3 Comments »
Two recent Paradise Preoccupied posts, “When crap is just crap”, and “Trash adoption, sell a book”, have been so popular that they’ve moved to one of my pro blog sites, the International Adopt Blog at Adoptionblogs.com.
Although the comments posted here stay put, you can read the posts, which have had just a tiny bit of tweeking, here and here.
Cambodian news: The PM’s pissed off, the World Bank wires the place and the IMF sees roses
Posted in Adoption, Cambodia, International Adoption on June 8, 2007| Leave a Comment »
I’m starting out this week’s wrap of the news from Cambodia with three links to one of my pro blogs where I posted an interview with Kari Grady Grossman, author of “Bones That Float: A Story of Adopting Cambodia”. Kari was gracious and loquacious, and the interview, like the woman and the book, is interesting and informative.
Part 1 is here. Part 2 is here, and part 3 is here.
I also want to give a link to a great source of info from Cambodia that also has a terrific blog roll — Details are Sketchy. Check it out.
Now, for the news …
The environmental group, Global Witness, released a report highly critical of government officials and the role they play in illegal logging in Cambodia that has many of the powers that be more than a little hot and bothered. In fact, the report itself has been banned from the country.
Like that’s going to make it go away! Sheesh. You’d think they’d understand by now that that’s the best way to get everyone to read the thing.
“The report centers its accusations on the government leader (Prime Minister Hun Sen) with an aim to provoke political animosity in the country, which exceeds the business of this organization,” said Information Minister Khieu Kanharith.
Not that reading will make all that much difference. As the group noted:
International donors, who bankroll the impoverished Southeast Asian nation, do virtually nothing to stop the plunder.
“When are the donors going to start addressing the asset-stripping, Mafioso behavior of the current regime?” Simon Taylor, the Global Witness director, said in a statement Friday.
In an interview ahead of the release of the report, Taylor described the logging business as “part of a massive asset stripping for the benefit of a small kleptocratic elite.
“The forests of Cambodia have been ransacked over the past decade by this mafia with little or no benefit flowing down to the ordinary people,” he said.
The report specifically focused on the Seng Keang Company, the country’s most powerful logging syndicate headed by Dy Chouch, Hun Sen’s first cousin.
When, indeed?
Later in the week came time to start urging donors to review funding for Global Witness!
Cambodia’s embassy in London called the allegations “totally groundless, unacceptable rubbish” and called on Britain, Canada, Ireland, Sweden, and the Netherlands to “seriously re-consider their support in funding Global Witness in the future.”
Yeah … like it’s their fault for noticing.
And it’s not just Global Witness pissing off Hun Sen this week. UN human rights envoy, Yash Ghai, has worked his way under the PM’s fingernails like a splinter of sharp of bamboo again, and the PM isn’t shy about giving him the cold shoulder …
‘This guy comes from a country which completely violates human rights,’ the premier added. ‘You can come here, but I do not need you. If I live to be more than 1,000 years old, I will still never meet with you, so please do not come to see me. The prime minister is not obliged to meet you.’
Hun Sen said Ghai’s report could be compared to a Cambodian proverb that says the dog barks, but the ox cart still rolls forward. ‘However, I will not compare you to a dog,’ he said, referring to Yash Ghai.
Okay, that’s not exactly diplomatic language, but Hun Sen does make a couple of valid points.
First, he, “issued a press release that did not deny human-rights abuses existed in the country but claimed Ghai’s report was unfair, biased and failed to acknowledge any progress the government had made, focusing instead only on negatives.”
Fair enough.
Second, and I love this:
Hun Sen said Monday that he had told former UN secretary general Kofi Annan personally that he never expected to hear a good report on Cambodia’s human-rights record while the human-rights envoy worked for a salary.
‘If you say good things about the government’s human-rights efforts, you will lose your salary,’ he said, adding that he viewed UN human-rights officials as tourists.
Keeping in mind Kari Grady Grossman’s observations from her book that the UN is almost single-handed responsible for the development of prostitution as an industry in Cambodia, I’d say the PM isn’t off base.
Not off base, perhaps, but certainly no where near a level playing field, as this story marking the one year anniversary of mass evictions illustrates.
On June 5th of last year, a pre-dawn eviction of more than 1,700 families from a Phnom Penh site set for development to the village of Trapeang Krasaing 13 miles away was eerily reminiscent of the 17th of April in 1975.
The problem begins, rights groups say, when government officials sell off vast swathes of property to a growing host of private companies promising to develop the land.
Ironically, the roadside leading out to Trapeang Krasaing is lined with billboards advertising yet-to-be-built apartment blocks, condominiums or planned communities of tidy single-family homes.
“There is all of this luxury development going on and the poor people are being discarded,” said one land rights advocate.
Many of those displaced — refugees of one calamity or another, from fires to flood, drought or civil strife — have lived for years on previously worthless real estate.
But the same land can now fetch millions.
Those legally entitled to their property are rarely fairly compensated, and there are very few avenues to fighting land grabs.
Interestingly, the German ambassador to Cambodia is urging the country join the Extractive Industries Transparency Initiative … How’s that for a catchy title? … an oil ethics group, to learn to properly manage what is bound to be lucrative old revenues about to start pouring in.
Hey! They haven’t even cottoned on to how to deal honestly, legally, ethically and morally with trees yet!
And now on to business …
Cambodia is planning to set up a limited stock market by 2009.
“The introduction of a financial market is very important,” Prime Minister Hun Sen said.
“It can help to mobilise the Cambodian people’s savings and channel them into long-term investments in social, economic and infrastructure projects.”
The World Bank has approved $33.5 million in grants that are to make cheap electricity available to rural Cambodians.
Under the World Bank’s Greater Mekong Sub-region (GMS) Power Trade Program, a grant of US$18.5 million to the Kingdom of Cambodia will be used to construct cross-border transmission lines to neighboring Lao PDR and Vietnam. Along with transmission links under construction with Vietnam through the IDA-funded Rural Electrification Project, the new funding will further expand power trade with Vietnam, enabling Cambodia to import electricity and bring down the cost for poor consumers.
You know … I’m really fond of my appliances and all, but cheap electricity is a tricky thing. There’s not much sense having it unless you have a bunch of stuff to plug in, so there’s a potential trap for the poor. Plus, the changes in society that happen when “Desperate Housewives” suddenly becomes an evening option can be very scary.
It puts me in mind of seeing Bart Simpson tattoos on Iban ‘warriors’ in Borneo. it took no time at all for 10,000 years of traditional body art to bite the dust in favor of the latest from America. Yikes, that’s frightening.
While the World Bank is handing out dough, the IMF has a “rosy overall impression” of Cambodia’s national economy.
‘Prudent macroeconomic policy implementation has provided stability, in turn boosting investors’ and consumers’ confidence, and has underpinned very strong macroeconomic performance,’ the statement said.
‘Impressive rates of growth have been sustained, inflation remains low, external debt is sustainable and headway is being made in a number of important structural reforms.‘The mission noted that the environment provides ideal conditions to re-energise reforms in key areas where progress has been less rapid, and to address the key constraints to broader poverty reduction.’
It said these factors had encouraged significantly increasing Foreign Direct Investment (FDI) which augured well for the economy.
The IMF said it estimates real Gross Domestic Product (GDP) to increase by around nine-per-cent this year, fanned by increased agricultural production and ‘robust growth’ in the areas of tourism, garment export and construction.
There were some caveats, however, mainly about the garment industry and the possibility of climate change impacting agriculture.
A new AIDS Treatment Center has opened in Svay Reing Province thanks to a collaboration between the Cambodian government and the AIDS Healthcare Foundation.
Australia is giving $7.5 million in climate change aid, and one of America’s richest men, Sumner M. Redstone, has announced a half-million dollar grand to the Cambodian Children’s Fund. He might be rich as all get out, but he’s a little slow on the uptake, apparently …
Sumner M. Redstone, said, “Until very recently I was unaware of the horrible conditions under which multitudes of children live in Cambodia.
Seems he’s planning to keep the money rolling in, though, and for that he can be as late to the table as he likes.
And that’s it for this week.
Have a great weekend!


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