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Like many dads, Mark has always assumed that he and his son are destined to pal around, to do guy things, to hang out together in that father/son way that, although it doesn’t include tossing a baseball back and forth in the back yard here … there being no baseballs and Mark not having a clue how to pitch one if it suddenly dropped out of the sky … is a familiar theme all over the world.

Mark was thirty-six when Sam came home, so not nearly as deserving of the older parent tiara as I was at the time, but still no spring chicken. He’d had a long time to observe other dad/kid relationships and decide what he’d like, and what he could take a pass on. Most of his visions of father-son-ing it at that stage involved fish in one way or another, with visions of quiet hours passed side-by-side in his little boat, then more time together as great meals would be prepared from the bounty they would haul home.

To a certain extent, that does happen. Sam enjoys fishing … although he wants to do it in the lagoon … and he loves bobbing around in the sea with Dad. He’s also big on adventures, and Dad is almost as much fun on those as Gay is.

For the most part, however, Mark’s interests are not Sam’s. He has no interest in going out in the boat, can only feign interest in cooking for short spurts, and would rather sit and draw for hours than hammer and saw and that sort of manly stuff that keeps Mark happily under the house and covered in sawdust for much of any given weekend.

It could easily be said that Sam is more like me than like his dad.

Cj, on the other hand … well, she’s a girl after her father’s heart. Peas in a pod, they are. Both have the calm temperament of those who will always choose smiling over frowning and acquiescence over argument. Nothing sounds like more fun to the two of them than mucking about in the wood shavings or spending ages in the kitchen together chopping, stirring, tasting.

And that’s another thing they share … they LOVE their food! Sam’s always been a good eater, but even his willingness to try anything didn’t prepare us for Cj’s total relish of anything … relish or no.

Yep. She’s just like her father is so many ways.

Now, if I can keep her thinking that washing dishes is a hoot and a half …

The shot is Cj and Mark having some father/daughter moments in the kitchen.Washing Dishes

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What do my mother, Liz Taylor and a chimp named Jiggs have in common?

They were all born in 1932 and recently celebrated 75th birthdays. That’s a lot of candles.

How cool would it have been to have a party to fete all three? My mom, of course, would be a bit star struck … after all, she grew up on Tarzan movies and everyone knows all the girls were really watching for the scenes with Cheeta (He was SO cute!) … and would have fretted over Liz, knowing too much about her health problems over the years.

There’d have been a lot of common ground, so conversation would flow smoothly, if not evenly; Jiggs being all non-verbal, you know. Mom and Ms. Taylor could yack for a week on ex-husbands alone. Then, there’s another week on weddings … and my mom did have the hots for Eddie Fisher way back when. (With a few twists of the path, Carrie and I could have been half-sisters, as Mom would not have turned him down.)

Jiggs would have heard ALL about me from my mother. She’s well proud of my passion for non-human primates and has been very impressed by the personal relationships I’ve had in the past with some wonderful individuals of the Pan troglodytes persuasion, so I’m sure she’d tell him all about how my good friend, Judy, would draw for me, and how Josie loved tickles.

Maybe, if we start planning now, we’ll be able to pull something together for 2012 when they all turn 80.

Mom 1956

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With a commitment of a minimum of 86 posts per month at my blog job for Adoption.com … each at between 300 and 500 words … I must be out of my mind to make myself another empty rectangle that needs filling on a regular basis, but even with all the blather I impart there I find myself feeling stifled and longing for an outlet.

It could be that keeping to topic is beginning to drive me ’round the bend … discipline makes me cranky … or perhaps it’s working for an organization I know to be of a conservative leaning, meaning I can’t very well pull out the stops, throw in the colorful language I’m fond of or get down and dirty in the oh-so-many ways I long to on topics ranging from the adoption-related to politics of both the countries I hold passports for, or mouth-off in general on whatever on any given day constitutes the pissed-off-able.

Maybe it’s island fever prompting me to extend one more bit beyond the time allowed in a day, setting myself up to begrudge each trip to the beach and miss the azure 86ºF waters that are often the only saving grace offered up amongst the frustrations a dearth of necessary items raise almost daily (toilet paper, onions …), the bane of island life.

Hell if I know, but I’m here, and knowing me I’ll be staying and yapping away in this blank rectangle for months to come.

By way of intro: I’m Sandra. I live on the island of Mahé in the country of Seychelles, a postage stamp of a bit of land in the Indian Ocean about 1000 miles off the coast of East Africa. I share my piece of paradise with my husband, Mark, and our two kids, Sam and Cj.

Our family tree has widely spread roots, with me starting out in the US, Mark coming into the world in England and the kids Cambodian-born. None of us are where we began life this time around, but we’re settled here for the foreseeable future where I’ll be blogging away from Blog Island in the pauses between everything else.

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